Relationship Coach Geralyn St. Joseph

From Feeling Isolated to Embracing Healthy Connection


Aloha and Welcome! 

Your primary relationship is with your Self, all other relationships are secondary. That being said, our relationships with others form us even before our birth. When we enter a world full of uncertainty, it plays with our perceptions and wires our energetic to respond to our environment and the people within it. This may be a good defense, until we outgrow it. Then it becomes a limitation, a blockage, a wall barring us from our highest potential. 

As a Relationship Coach, I am here to help you navigate the future. Let's discover those walls, break them down and replace these barriers to happiness with healthy boundaries! Becoming Empowered allows you to create healthy relationships. When you embrace who you are and what you can bring to the table, it allows your loved ones to do the same. 

Are you tired? Do you feel lost? Do you often feel lonely? Even when you are in relationship? It's time to Breakthrough to YOU!

Couple's Coaching

When couples enter counseling, it is generally at the insistence of one person. Unless both parties are willing to actively participate in the healing process by working together and individually, little in the relationship will change.

 My style of guidance incorporates frank discussion and interactive communication exercises to practice at home. The lessons learned during our sessions are integral to all our relationships and help us to live a more fulfilled and productive life.

 The results of this style of couple’s guidance are generally evident by the third or fourth session.

It is possible for one partner to create change in a relationship since the movement of one inevitably affects the other. But for change to be lasting and positive requires the commitment of both partners.

Is Passion Something You Want In A Relationship?

Let’s talk about PASSION, what it really means in a relationship and whether or not it is part of a healthy relationship.

First, we need to know what the word passion means. Did you know that passion means suffering, something that must be endured, a controlling emotion? Other than that last definition, most people haven’t though about the others. A controlling emotion…does that sound healthy?

What we perceive as passion in a relationship; that nervous/excited feeling we have at the beginning of a relationship, or the feeling that pulls us back together after a breakup or fight, that is anxiety. That feeling is the fear of loss that marks a relationship’s instability. Coming together, and building a relationship on this emotion is dangerous. If this is what we expect from our relationships it is tantamount to saying that we want a painful, insecure coupling. We are asking for something that is thoughtless. We are asking for a relationship built without conscious choice.

Words have POWER. Choose your words carefully.

What do we really want in our romantic relationships? We want to be wanted and desired. When this is physical desire, it is called lust. Lust is intense desire and can be nurtured in a relationship. It can last throughout a relationship and is much healthier than passion. Lust is fed by our thoughts. Desire begins in the mind and becomes stronger when nurtured. Flirting with your love and building anticipation for your physical connection can highly enhance your time together.

Another, more appropriate word [than passion] to consider is romance.  Being romantic helps to build a deep emotional connection with your partner. Romance encompasses respect, spontaneity, personal attention and love. Being romantic is showing your partner their importance to you. It is absolutely necessary in a healthy relationship.

The final suggestion I have, is to use the word affection. Affection denotes fondness and tender attachment. Physical affection is wonderful in a loving relationship and helps to maintain our connection even when we are too tired, too sick or too whatever to have a fuller sexual experience. Affection is your partner kissing you on the forehead, or showing appreciation for you. A good hug does wonders for this feeling of connection.

In short, passion is not a part of a healthy relationship. Instead strive to be a truly romantic partner who shares lust and affection with your partner. Remember: Words have power, so choose your words carefully. Blessings!

Geralyn St Joseph is a Relationship Empowerment Coach who has helped people in finding their best selves and discovering their most fulfilling relationships. She coaches individuals, couples and families. Her style of coaching is direct and nurturing. If you are interested in discovering more, go to: or you can contact Geralyn at 

How well do you know your partner?

What are some the issues that have affected relationships during the pandemic?

How well do you know your partner? Many of us have assumptions about our partners based on limited experience, so spending so much ‘alone time’ together forces us to recognize who we are and who are partners are. During the lockdowns many couples discovered that living together was not quite as easy as it seemed. The lockdowns forced us to face mortality, one another and ourselves.

With the fear factor notched up to a solid 8 [maybe 9], our stress levels were primed to test our mettle. With stress levels so high, and maintaining the tension for so long, our deepest selves emerged – whether we wanted it to or not. Because time hasn’t been taken long-term to nurture our partners or ourselves, this can create issues. The same kinds of things come up when we retire. If we have been mainly focused on the job and day to day tasks, we are often left unprepared to live fully in our relationship, and life in general.

This period of time was a good test of the staying power of our relationships. Why? Because all lives encounter stress. Knowing how you and your partner deal with this, both as individuals and together, is essential in truly building a lasting relationship.

Like it or not, we all deal with trauma at some point in our lives? Does your partner support you? You them? Can you seek help together, or does your partner prefer to ‘keep their head down’ and ‘just get through it’ as if things will simply adjust on their own? Are you the one who prefers to just move through these times? Not processing or healing? Simply ignoring or suppressing your emotions?

Maybe one of you doesn’t even know how to identify what you are feeling. Unfortunately, this is very common, particularly among men. This is because, in many cultures, our boys are taught to suppress instead of express. This can cripple them emotionally and keep them from having the deeply loving partnerships they want, need and deserve. Don’t be mistaken, women are not immune to this type of issue, it is simply more prevalent in boys.

These times of stress and trauma are ripe for self-discovery and healing. Seize the opportunity to create a more intimate relationship with your partner, to become healthier and closer to the ones you love. Remember - Asking for help is a sign of strength and commitment. None of us walk this life alone, we are not meant to.

How do you know the kind of help you need? Honestly, it may take more than one try to find the right fit. You may work best with a Coach or Therapist. You may want to work together with your partner, but make sure that you are working as individuals also. In the end, it’s more about the individual you select to work with, than just the style of help you are receiving.

Geralyn St Joseph is an Intuitive Relationship Coach who has helped people in finding their best selves and discovering their most fulfilling relationships. She coaches individuals, couples and families. Her style of coaching is direct and nurturing. If you are interested in discovering more, go to:

Contact Geralyn at

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Relationship Empowerment on Meetup

This group is for people who are looking for a way to enhance their relationships.
You may be ready to set some aspirational goals and need someone, or a small group, to help you achieve them, i.e. hold you accountable in a safe space. We are here to explore our relationships and how they shape us. As we become more confident in who we are, we become empowered to have more meaningful relationships.

If any of this resonates with you, then this will be a great meet-up group for you. We will meet to talk through life's situations. You'll leave the meeting with at least one strategy to take a step forward to enhance your relationships [maybe the relationship with your Self]. The meetings will be held on Zoom. I will host hybrid events when possible - Hybrid being both on Zoom and in-person.

Our meetings are primarily on ZOOM. You will need to register for the event once you RSVP to receive your unique link to the meeting.

This is time for you to care for yourself - and along the way you'll meet other great people who are on a similar journey

See you there! Blessings! Geralyn